I once had coffee with a media celebrity that redefined how I shape my world. I asked him what his hobbies were. As a media personality, I guess I thought he would talk about red carpets and award shows, exclusive parties, or trips to Monaco. That sort of thing. His public persona was such that one would expect those things.

What he described instead changed my life. He said that he finally gave himself permission to do what he really liked – reading. Most days would find him at home alone, lost in books. He also eliminated all chores, hiring a retinue of staff to free him to do deep research and documentation.

While he was speaking, a switch flipped in my head as I realized I could give myself permission too.

Loud or Quiet Wealth

You see, the world’s definition of fun is largely derived from Hollywood and celebrities. So, when people make money, they want to go clubbing, buy cars and designer outfits, fly private, or attend a Grand Prix, among other things. These choices typically have three things in common – they are loud, formulaic, and cost a lot of money.

Because that’s what rich people presumably do, the nouveau riche continue to do them, creating a healthy demand. It’s an extroverted image of wealth.

While it’s great to do those things if you desire them, societal expectations shouldn’t dictate how you enjoy your success.

Live Authentically

Lately, I’m happy to see a growing trend of people who are using wealth to do what’s most authentic to them.

They are using money to reclaim time and to foster relationships. Building homes where friends and family can attend dinner parties. Pursuing quiet and thoughtful hobbies. Funding passion projects without asking permission. Creating a better version of society just because.

As you grow your wealth, do not give in to society’s vision of what life should be. Imagine your own.

Thank you for reading.

I’m happy to see a growing trend of people who are using wealth to do what’s most authentic to them.

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