48 Laws Of Power & Other Matters

I have met many who have lost their way in Nigeria. People who have given up on values and embraced manipulation instead. It would appear they share a few sentiments in common – anger, envy, bitterness and helplessness, closely followed by desperation and rebellion. The break down often starts like this: You do everything right,[…]

Family, Mindsets & Guilt Trips

If you’re succeeding in life and trying to create a better life for your parents, siblings or extended family, you should read this. One of the hardest things you’ll come up against is mindset. It is what will cause you the most sorrow. Let me explain using a Nigerian example. You believe in having electricity[…]

Why You Need Health Insurance

My recent medical adventure means I’ve accessed healthcare in four countries, including Nigeria. Along the way, I have formed some personal opinions about healthcare in Nigeria. I suspect that when Nigerians say older doctors in Teaching Hospitals are the “best”, this is what they mean – the doctors have seen thousands of cases before, and[…]

You Gave Me Too Much Change

When I was growing up, I was taught that if you went to a store to buy something and you were given excess change, you returned it. In the same vein, if you overpaid, an honest cashier would return the extra to you. Honesty wasn’t something you rationalised. It was hard coded into your DNA[…]

Self-Sabotage

A while ago, Twitter was agog over an author who falsely accused a more accomplished one of plagiarism. After being caught in the error, she gave a grudging apology that smacked of desperate self-preservation. I think the enormity of her gaffe finally dawned on her and she sought a way out. Twitter gave her none.[…]

Own Your Ideas

Sometimes when you’re in a brainstorm session at work, after many hours, an idea is finally adopted. To your surprise, it’s the same idea you mooted hours before that everyone ignored. Now the same idea has been selected but no one remembers you were the first person to raise it. You don’t receive the credit.[…]

Nigeria Will Outlive Us All

Nations have a way of outliving us all. Nationhood doesn’t just happen. It is created by a group of crafty, intelligent, ruthless and determined men & women. Until nations are deliberately formed, they subsist lethargically, waiting for dreamers and opportunists to die. Nations age in generations. Humans age in years. So, it is foolhardy to[…]

Why We Must Not Do Evil

One depressing thing about Nigeria is how more often than not, evil triumphs over good. Nice people seem to finish last. Life isn’t fair and time & chance happen to all but, inequity seems more prevalent in Nigeria than in other climes. Those who work hard look stupid, as they watch the cunning & connected[…]

Choose To Submit

If you are very intelligent, you need to choose submission as a way of life. Extreme intellect is rare, so you will not always have the luxury of working with or being led by your equals or people who are more intelligent than you. So, you must choose to submit. I know you think you[…]

Bush Meat Becomes The Hunter

Five years ago, I met a man who said he didn’t understand why women were complaining about the world. Why they seemed so bitter. He was quite happy to live in a man’s world. It worked for him. This year, he complained about the dating scene and how women had changed. I refrained from asking[…]