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What Are You Afraid Of?

What Are You Afraid Of?

I made a big decision today. It occurred to me that I have been afraid of change and so, I kept stalling. Because I’m driven, I tend to push through despite my fear, but it’s not a healthy way to live. I need to let go of assumed control and embrace...
Know Your Business Strengths

Know Your Business Strengths

You must come to terms with your business strengths and then, collaborate to solve your weaknesses. For instance, my specialisation is services not products, quality not quantity. I love to develop ideas & products and to prototype them. I see them to the point of...
Enjoy the Process

Enjoy the Process

Let me share a few things I’ve learned recently: A while ago, I began wondering whether I was doing anything significant in life. You know how we all get caught up in activities and duties but worry if they matter. Two days ago, I heard in my spirit that my most...
Worry Shouldn’t Kill You

Worry Shouldn’t Kill You

No one is tensioning me or putting me under pressure, so why am I heaping pressure and excessive expectations on myself? It must be a lack of self-care and self-love. I need to stop it. If there’s a 50:50 chance that things could go wrong or right, then I choose...
Musings About Nigeria

Musings About Nigeria

As I walk along the dirty streets of my neighbourhood, I realise that what gives “abroad” its feel is not necessarily the weather. I’ve visited countries that are as hot and humid as Nigeria. It’s cleanliness, order, quality and standards....
The Nigerian Challenge

The Nigerian Challenge

Here’s a challenge: In Nigeria, it’s not enough to be good at what you do. You must be good and political; good and cultural; good and tolerant of deeply disturbing mediocre shit. When the emotional pressure becomes too much, many good people simply give...
My Internal Conversations

My Internal Conversations

I talk to myself all the time. I say things like, “Subomi, you can’t be proud.”, “Subomi, be patient.” That’s my Melancholy side (Shosho), reigning in my Choleric side (Subomi). I have other daily conversations. I ask, “God,...
Cholerics & Relationships

Cholerics & Relationships

It is possible to be deeply compassionate about issues and to fight for justice & equity, yet not really care about people. It is the ideals you care about, the projects, not the humans. Many Choleric leaders can be like that. They have a finely tuned sense of...
We Are The Church

We Are The Church

I no longer obsess about what the Church in Nigeria is doing or not doing. I am the Church too. Let me focus on my own constituency, instead of getting my panties in a twist over what others are doing in their own constituencies. If you ruminate too much on what is...
Pastor, Find Your Humanity

Pastor, Find Your Humanity

As a reformed Choleric, now would be a good time to remind my fellow driven individuals to find their humanity before it is too late. Do not let tragedy, failure or the loss of a friendship remind you that emotions, love and relationships are incredibly important....