Mind sex

Mind Sex

I believe the most critical sex organ is the brain and not the penis or vagina. Sex begins with and is fueled by imagination. Because Christian doctrine tells us that pre-marital sex is to be avoided, many Christians struggle with mind sex – mostly masturbation and its fuel – porn. It’s an escape; a way[…]


(Don’t) Shake That Booty!

I watch music videos at the salon. Until a few weeks ago, I hadn’t owned a TV in years. Anytime I watch those videos, I realise just how much I have NOT missed. If you watch music visual interpretations regularly, you will be excused for believing sex is the most important thing in the world.[…]


Sex & Fame

There are a few things on my mind today. Sex and fame are opportunistic. They come when you least expect them. It stands to reason then, that you shouldn’t wait to decide what to do at the point when either is offered to you. You should develop parameters for your decision-making a long time beforehand.[…]

By Benjamin Combs

Sex, Porn, Masturbation & the Christian

I have been thinking about the results of the Alder ‪#‎StateofChurch‬ Report for Nigeria. (You may download the report here.) In the report, respondents in the South East and North Central are very much interested in their churches talking about sex. These regions are the most willing of all the geo-political zones in Nigeria to do so. I[…]


I’m Hungry

Some types of sexual hunger are very specific. It’s why it’s ridiculous and unhelpful to suggest that one eats whatever is available. There is a sexual hunger that accompanies the exhilaration of achievement so having a safe outlet is essential for overachievers. Then there is a sexual hunger that accompanies loneliness. No, it’s not a hunger[…]



When I meet someone and am trying to decide whether to trust them, I’m more likely to consider whether they’re kind, charitable, reliable and hardworking than to wonder who they’ve been sleeping with and under what circumstances. Therefore I find the Christian world’s obsession with “sexual” judgment peculiar. Some of us have missed the plot[…]