One of the more fabulous stories I heard from someone toasting me, was that he graduated from Annapolis Naval Academy. Turned out he couldn’t swim and that was how his lie was uncovered. If the dots do not add up, they don’t. I find that it’s easier to be yourself in a relationship than to pretend.[…]
I once attended a series of literary events in Lagos. I observed that many of the guests spoke and dressed the same way. They even ordered similar drinks. I became worried when I kept seeing the same faces repeatedly. I recognised that some types of people love the same things (like those who attend outdoor[…]
It takes many mature women just twenty-four hours to decide whether they want a relationship with a man, or want to sleep with him, or both. It takes me two hours or less. When women ask for more time, it could be for the following reasons: They assume many men are not wired for honesty[…]
I had a boyfriend who taught me a valuable lesson. We were supposed to view our first lunar eclipse together. We agreed he would pick me up at 2am, when the eclipse was scheduled to happen. We would go to our special place to view it. Unfortunately, we missed it. We fought the previous day[…]
Every man & woman should read this. I have been in a few relationships and observed many more. I also manage a therapy platform inspired by a relationship mentoring column. My experience with therapy means I am aware of the dark underbelly of Nigerian relationships. I am slightly disillusioned as I now understand why some Nigerians premise relationship[…]
1. Here’s how you’ll know you are in a relationship with someone who is not in a relationship with you. (You may also use this formula for friendships): Significant events happen in their lives – a new job, a major purchase like a car or house, their parents falling ill etc. and you never know before or[…]
[Read Part 1 here] I think the insatiable need for a relationship (as well as serial dating) may be connected to the fear of being alone and the need for validation, attention & love that should come from friends and a loving family. If you have never known a love without expectations, you would assume[…]
I would like to write a dating primer for men. The truth is, unless you have game, have joined “bad gang” or have a mentor or sister, you probably had no one to teach you how to chat up women. (I think women need a primer too, so I have included a few lessons for them[…]
Once upon a time, patriarchy ruled the land. Women were egregiously abused but asked to cover the shame of the men for the sake of the family. Now, in the space of one generation, women have become “wise”. Money has become their succour. Durex tells us they are cheating and abusing too. Many were quick[…]
In Nigeria, it is assumed both men and women know the rules of the “dating game”. So when a woman asks for transport fare after sex, the guy acquiesces. Whether this is a nice way of packaging a financial transaction is open to debate. When a man invites you over very soon after meeting you,[…]