When I meet someone online, I either connect with them immediately or after some time. I almost always begin with chat. It helps me to gauge whether they can carry on a conversation and express themselves with words. In the first week, I make an effort to feel people out. I try to find out[…]
I learnt something a few days ago – never wait to be asked, to demonstrate friendship to friends. Just be there for them. You don’t need a special occasion. If they come to mind, pray for them. If they want to talk, call them. If they need you to be there, show up.
In the famous Book of Proverbs, King Solomon cautions, “Do not forsake your own friend or your father’s friend.” This maxim brings to mind a conversation I had with a friend the other day. You see, I belong to a group of friends who have done many NGO projects together over the last 10 years[…]
I have a love for Jordan’s Crunchy Nut muesli that I cannot fully put into words. I’ve eaten Nasco Cornflakes topped with Jordan’s for years. My love for some foods is consistent and mirrors the way I love people. If I love someone or something, it grows. I’m yet to grasp the concept of love that fades over time.[…]
If you consider friendship important; if you really understand its true value; if you place significant worth on your contributions, you will appreciate the roles you play in people’s lives and be content. There are friends you party with and those whose ideas you clarify over a cup of coffee. Both roles are important and you[…]
People say you shouldn’t follow the crowd. But when you’re different, you’re called strange or an odd-ball. You’re also left alone. I’ll never forget the day a “friend” reduced something I’d held dear for over 30 years into something foolish. He made me feel so small. In those moments when you doubt the things you stand for, you either draw closer to[…]
I negotiated the roundabout in Lekki, narrowly missing a commercial bus. As I squeezed past, a jaywalker leapt out from nowhere and I braked hard to avert a disaster. Just like life, you sidestep some trouble only to encounter more soon after. Trial comes in waves and you wonder when you’ll finally be able to catch[…]
What is friendship, really? Is it companionship? Is it having someone who’s got your back or an ally in troubled times? Is it conversations or a travelling companion? I’m thinking about the type of friendship I miss and that I need in my life right now. I need a friend who shares my values. We may[…]